Remembering we're in this TOGETHER....

When you conceive a baby, it takes the two of you, Muma and Daddy, the trouble is..... remembering this very fact!

When man and wife are happily married and have a baby, it's a joint venture, you both become parents, you both start from scratch in learning how to parent each unique Being, and you both quickly pick up just what it takes to let the little person know that they are loved and safe.

Each parent has their own ways, different tricks to calm and sooth, to stop the tears and get the smiles back.

We both have our childs best interests at heart, neither likes to see them hurt.

I learnt a valuable lesson today, one that I didn't even realise 'til we talked it over, that it needed to be learnt.

Hubby is a keen supporter of our breastfeeding, acknowledges it's importance and encourages through the harder times. 

Let me set the scene....

When our son was crying today after a fall, Daddy went to his aid and scooped him up in his arms and brought him back to where the family was sitting in our local park. 

Beautiful isn't it? 

But my first reaction was- Child's crying = breastfeed the pain away.

When I asked hubby to bring tot to me for a feed, hubby snapped "breastfeeding isn't the answer to everything you know!"

:-0 SHOCK!!!

I felt anger inside. 

Not only was he snapping at me, not supporting breastfeeding and it's benefits in that situation, but it he was not bringing my child to me in his time of need for comfort.

Some ugly words ensued, then it was dropped coz I feel awfully embarrassed carrying on in front of others.

The thing is, my hubby is man of few words, and often due to this I don't read him right....least of all, the others we publicly display our distane in front of!

Anyway, when we got home...as often happens after public hissy fits, we talked it over.

If only he could have said all this in that moment!!!!

Turns out, hubby does know and love and support our breastfeeding.  What he didn't know is that his wife would think he was incapable of comforting his own son 8(

Oh dear!!!!

How awful I felt to learn this is what goes through my hubby's head every time I've whipped our son away from him....doing what I think is the right thing, but in doing so, it's been making my hubby feel like a crap Daddy.

He doesn't wana only be there for the fun moments, the silly moments, he wants his boy to know that Daddy's arms are just as cozy and safe as Muma's.

Of course I thought I knew this, I just had no idea how much I wasn't giving him a chance to put it into practice.  I feel awful that he has obviously felt this way for some time, over several tearful situations, and it's taken him this long to articulate it to me.

Our son is a lucky kid, his Daddy wants to take on all the bad, not just the good.  Muma needs to learn to trust he has just as much "Daddy instinct" as I have "Muma instinct"!

We're in this together!!