Please DON'T!

WARNING.......The following is a potty mouthed rant!

I've been getting progressively annoyed lately, I know much of what I'm taking offence to you will think it's me being sensitive and that I should not be , but I just need to get this OFF MY CHEST!!!!

My son has a large tummy, for this he has copped many a comment....well I have, including things like-

"Oh you're so lucky he has the gut to hold his swimming belt down! My child's rides up around their armpits in the water"

"Oh, how cute, he's such a chubba buba!"

"Oh, he must have a healthy appetite!"

As well as these comments said within ear shot, I also know that there has been the opinion that we must feed him junk food ALL the time.

Now, I realise, he may look cute and all, he certainly has learnt to work that belly(he has a funny walk that he does that he pushes his gut out, puts his arms back like wings and strolls around like a waddling duck!), but that belly is NOT chubby!!!

He is NOT chubby, and every bloody comment I hear is another freakin reminder of our sons poor little gut.

You see, he was born with two hernias, one an umbilical(which we have been told is best medically left til at least the age of 3 to see if it will heal itself...Daddy calls this his "shark fin") and an inguinal hernia.

The inguinal hernia was operated on and fixed as best that was medically possible, but it did leave him with continued bowel issues.  These bowel issues are due to the section that was stuck in the hernia not growing as large as the rest of the bowel.  As a consequence, he has problems with his bowel movements, including getting solid matter stuck while liquids pass through, this also leads to a back up of gases(farts) and causes the bowel walls to stretch....something that you would think would fix the problem of solid matter being stuck, well yes, but it then means that the bowel wall is left stretched like elastic, and each time this happens it takes longer to bounce back to shape.

All of this is what causes his tummy pot.
It was even a problem before solids was introduced, but the intro of solids sure didn't help the matter.

He is NOT fat, for heavens sake you can see his ribs when he breaths, that doesn't go with such a chubby stomach.

He has a gassed up stomach.  The paediatrician is still in process of working out treatment, in the mean time we deal day to day with how his bowel is behaving.  We don't like to show that he is not in the best health, we carry on like he is any other child, for the most part.  But he does have his bad days, he has sick days, days that he can't eat for the simple fact that there's no more room in that poor blocked up gut of his to fit anymore in.  This makes him uncomfortable, and understandably, this makes him irritable.  Then we get it all back to the best condition we can and the whole cycle starts again.
I am NOT after pity, I am NOT trying to or would hate to think I've pissed anyone off by saying this.  I just wanted to provide some awareness of how heavy those light hearted words weigh me down.  I don't like to think I have a sick kid.  I DON'T think of him as a sick kid.  He's such a happy contented little chap for the most part, and we are truly blessed for his gorgeous persona in light of his nasty gut.  This is why I hate those comments, they remind me of what lies inside that tummy, the tummy of my giggly little tot. 
 Please respect that I feel this way, and shut your stupid comments up, PLEASE!!!!!